There's no 'I' in Team

Well back to the parenting thing. Things are going pretty good so far. I think that one thing that we can say is that you have to be a team. We're not experts and we've had our trials and tribulations before we found out that we're expecting. There's lots of pressure from all sorts of sources and there were many disappointments. From talking with friends, what we found was that this was the norm.

The TSN turning point for us was an adjustment in our own attitude and behaviour. We found that through the whole process we supported each other more and more. Mostly it was just me knowing what Tresa was going through and knowing that she was going through quite a bit. I won't go through all the gorry details, but there were lots of blood samples and lots of tests. Both her and myself. But mostly her. I can recall many mornings of getting Tresa to work before 6am so that she could make up time while she was at the clinic. So the effort of waking up was relatively easy in comparison. You know after a while of getting up that early it became easier. Some days were tougher than others. But complaining was not an option. And the drugs were much tougher to take than you'd think. This went on for months, so this has given me a new respect for Tresa.

What I wanted her to know was that she wasn't going to be alone in this, eventhough most of the work was being in done on her and that if things don't work out, she wasn't a failure. There was no failure in this. And there were other avenues that we'd have a child. Adoption was one of our options. And we had checked what was involved and the costs. And they were quite high, costing anywhere from 15,000 to 25,000 CAD. It depends on the origin on the babies. Adoption agencies have been cropping up everywhere to meet the demands of couples unable to conceive. And you have to be careful become some places aren't legit. But this was something we had considered seriously and may even still consider in the future. We've even spoken with people who have adopted and they say that the experience was the best. In the end, it doesn't matter. A baby is a baby.

It can be a frustrating situation, if left unchecked and not communicated. But we became closer and just started having fun again. This didn't happen overnight, but we eventually realized what is important. So I think once we reached this state in our lives together, that's when we got the good news.