50 Shades of Ray

It should be more like 550 Hairs of Gray. But that's okay.  I'm good with it.  Even my forehead getting more and more real estate is fine with me.  It's inevitable.

We had a good drive back.  It wasn't so sunny so it wasn't as tiring of a drive.  But it feels like it's been non-stop for the last month, since we got back from HHI it's been warm and humid like HHI.  Just not quite as hot.  Also not getting a jelly fish sting or stepping on a ray while swimming in the Atlantic.

When i was younger and naive I was sometimes thinking how unfortunate we were.  An immigrant family coming here in the early 1970s with 6 kids, and no money.  But  I didn't understand our status until i was a few yrs older.  But you get the cards you are dealt and you do with it what you can.

Reaching this milestone in terms of numerical age.  And I never looked at my age as anything but a number.  Yet this year 50 seems significant as i write this blog post.

I learned that if you keep focusing on what you don't have, then all you will ever think of yourself is a have-not.  Having 2 hands, 2 arms, 2 feet, 2 eyes and 2 ears and a brain.  You're a have something.  Opportunities, that you need to look for.  You can do a lot of good.  So.  Get to it.

I don't recall so many birthdays so close.  It was always just me and my cousin (who shares the same birthday), who i forget to call every year, but i texted her this year, before midnight, i had started the text just needed to send.  And my brother who's birthday is a few day prior.  Now there's our good friends Jinn and Song, and Joe and Rose, Andj and Simon....the more the merrier.


If it wasn't for this person beside me (and others too, & they know who they are), i'd probably have a quiet week that marked the passing of another year.  Another year of same old same old.

The 50 yr old me feels very fortunate to have the cards he was dealt.  Because it lead to the people I have in my life.  Friends, family, everyone.

She did a lot in the past few weeks.  More than 50% of it not for her.  I may complain about stuff i need her to do that has a really good chance of not getting done (ever), but this stuff is important too.  I appreciate it.  The family and friends appreciate it.  Cuz there's no one else who does it better.

It takes effort to go out and socialize.  Bad foot and all. If you don't make that effort then guess what. You won't have any friends.  It's that simple.  No one shops and socializes more effectively than Tresa.  She's the best shopper and best socializer.  She will volunteer me to do stuff for my own good.

It doesn't matter that we need our 2nd bath back.  It'll get done.  It needs to get started, but once that happens it'll get done.  It always does.  There is always work to do.

Celebrating friends and family. That doesn't happen as much as it should.  I just noticed that my face is looking more and more like a round Asian Happy Face Emoji with Glasses.

This is the card that I was dealt with.
i'm good with it.

Everyone is pretty happy with a cake from DQ.

Photos: 50 Shades of Ray